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Lori's avatar

Agree 100% Cecil. And moms cannot be the male role model that boys need. Girls are way more complicated than boys. Boys will have a fight and then it’s over and they are back to normal. Girls are drama and giving the cold shoulder. I have a son and daughter. This is just my 2 cents.

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Cecil A. Grant Jr's avatar

Well said.

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Kat Highsmith's avatar

Huh.

Then why are boys fighting to play girls' sports? Why are boys fighting to get into girls' bathrooms, prisons, and beauty contests? Why are boys making fake AI porn of their female classmates to ruin their lives? Why are boys shooting up kindergartens as a way to get attention?

Could you please talk these amazing boys, as if women wanting to spend time with them is the problem?

Wtf is wrong with all of you? STOP PLAYING VIDEO GAMES AND LAY OFF THE PORN.

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Cecil A. Grant Jr's avatar

You need mental health counseling. Please don't delay.

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Garry Perkins's avatar

Yes, but boys also need to know when a fight is over. In a universal background check world, an arrest on one's record is a terrible thing. One of the most important lessons a man learns is how to administer just violence, and where the line between a lesson and cruelty lies. The worst problem with zero tolerance laws are that a young man has no idea what to do when a fight occurs later in life when he has enough power to kill. Fighting is part of being male. We grow out of it, but it is cruel beyond comprehension to try to avoid boys fighting at all costs, so they never learn where that line is. Furthermore, a good fight often ends peer pressure, or bullying. I am convinced that a large component of crime comes down to this. In general, I feel like the modern American school system has been reconfigured to exclude and marginalize young men of color. Like all evil, those making the changes claim to be helping the children that they are torturing.

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Kat Highsmith's avatar

Boys shoot up kindergartens because they can't get a date.

You want to talk about normal?

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Dan Daniels's avatar

I'm a father of 5, 3 daughter, 2 sons. We do most things as a family of 7, but I make sure to do things with my sons alone as a Dad, and to do things alone with my daughters as a Dad. Those things can be the same things for both groups maybe a hunting trip or shopping, but it is important to have that time separate with them. A good way to describe it is that it allows young men to try out some of their "bullsh#t" with different consequences and less long term harm to their character. That's a good thing because we aren't perfect and it takes practice to get better at doing things, even if that thing is simply being a better human.

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Cecil A. Grant Jr's avatar

Well said. Daughters need to have time away from guys as well and need to learn about men from their fathers. When they come together, hopefully the results will be people treating each other with kindness.

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Kat Highsmith's avatar

Could you please tell the Taliban? That would be great.

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Cecil A. Grant Jr's avatar

We live in America. Not sure what the Taliban have to do with this...

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Kat Highsmith's avatar

Male stupidity is a global and historical problem.

We don’t live in a vacuum. Male idiocy can be placed in a global context.

The very fact that you’re baffled by this, as if the world and male stupidity is universal, proves my point. You are incapable of viewing yourself, as males lack the ability to engage in self-awareness.

You’re an old donkey. Go take your diabetes medication, Uncle Ruckus.

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Cecil A. Grant Jr's avatar

Didn't take long for the name calling to start, because well, you're so smart. Looking at your picture, I'd say you're the one on multiple medications. Stay delusional. Thanks for baffling me.

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David Geuting's avatar

Experts will tell you that the greatest influence in a child's life is the same sex parent. I cherished hanging with my dad.

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Kat Highsmith's avatar

Nobody can take a male's right to contact with his child away. Any and every family court will set up a visitation plan, and if that plan is violated, the person who refuses to cooperate can be punished for contempt of court.

That's on men.

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Lori's avatar

Kat Highsmith is using a pic of Sylvia Plath for the photo. I would encourage Cecil to block this troll who highjacked his page.

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Cecil A. Grant Jr's avatar

Blocked. Thank you.

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Lori's avatar

Good. Honestly, I was concerned people might stop commenting on your very good opinion pieces because of the deluge of long, nutty, random thoughts by this troll who may keep showing up.

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ken terry's avatar

On, no. More toxic masculinity! LOL

Very true. There need to be men only, as well as women only spaces. There are different socialization needs for men and women (how odd that this is controversial) that can only be met without the pressures inherent in mixed sex settings.

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Lori's avatar

Trying to mute Kat Highsmith. I’ve blocked her.

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KathyD's avatar

Agree 100%!

I also think boys and girls would be better off in sex segregated schools. Can’t wait to see what you write about that!

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NotaBot's avatar

Educator Andrew Pudewa of the Institute of Excellence in Writing (homeschoolers’ favorite) just talked about this in the annual training they did recently.

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Cecil A. Grant Jr's avatar

Do they have thoughts on teaching boys and girls separately?

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NotaBot's avatar

Yes indeed. How boys respond to raised volume instructions whereas girls are the opposite. Boys are attracted to motion and action whereas girls are drawn to color and texture. This translates to their writing in that boys might use verbs and adverbs to boost their writing while girls favour adjectives. In general of course!! Fascinating. See if you can listen to his talk.

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Cecil A. Grant Jr's avatar

Thanks I will look for it. If I can't find it I'll get back with you.

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Kat Highsmith's avatar

The males will never get anything done, while the girls will excel.

That's what always happens.

Girls are far more successful in school even in Saudi Arabia and even in Afghanistan, where a female had the top score in university exams before the males shut it down (I think they did it largely because men are petty and salty, and this is the only way males even stand a chance).

Don't cry about how the feminisms force males to be stupid and lazy. They do it themselves, all over the world.

https://www.voanews.com/a/south-central-asia_afghan-woman-tops-national-university-exam-uncertain-about-future-under-taliban/6210154.html

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Cecil A. Grant Jr's avatar

I would ask you what great works or art, or architecture has a women created. What city has a women built. Name a women richer or smarter than Elon Musk. Men and women have a place in the world and in the family. I know plenty of people who a smart but have no common sense and don’t know how to deal with people. Let me know when you girls get something done.

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KathyD's avatar

What is the point of your comment? Just men bashing? And just because a situation may currently be happening doesn’t mean it’s always been this way, assuming your information is correct (which I am skeptical about.)

What are your solutions? Do you even give a rip? Sounds like you don’t.

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